But it hasn't been that at all. Strangers (black, white, old, young) have frequently stopped us to comment how beautiful she is and we haven't had a single negative public comment as of yet. Again, knocking on wood. I'm still expecting to meet that idiot at Wal-Mart who starts out with 'Where's her real mama?' (ahem, I am her real mama. I have thousands in dr. bills to prove it.)
The one comment that has knocked me on my behind is 'well, she doesn't have AIDS does she??' Because obviously, she is from Africa.... and well, everyone knows AIDS comes from Africa.
So all black African children must have AIDS. (insert eye roll)
And let me start by answering - no, adopted children are tested before, and often after, adoption to find out any conditions that may be present. There have been cases of false positives, but not negatives. If they don't have it, it does not 'mature' and exhibit itself at a later date. Decades of research, decades.
But let me also say, if my child did have HIV - #1 it wouldn't really be anyone else's business but ours.. and #2 your child would most likely be the dangerous of the two when they play together as it would be your germs that could hurt my child's fragile immune system. Just sayin'.
It is pure idiocracy that the media has ignored this issue for so long. No new information has been publicized since the 1980s. And that is a crime. HIV/AIDS is no longer a death sentence. Especially in a country as affluent as the old US of A. Medicines have made great strides and the condition, and treating it, has actually been said to be much easier to manage than childhood diabetes. So why hasn't the media told us this??? Children diagnosed with AIDS can now be medicated to the point that they would actually test negative their counts are so low. They can marry, and have sex, and have children without passing the disease along. Didn't know that did ya??
Why is there still the stigma put on these children, who had no say in the matter anyway as to whether they contracted the disease or not?? Why are they the ones that parents don't want their kids to play with on the playground - when no cases have shown casual contact like hugging, wrestling, or swimming can transmit AIDS?? There are even no cases of an adopted child passing the disease along to their parents or siblings - even with contact with blood from accidents or scrapes.
So IF my child WERE sick:
The facts are that unless your toddler is planning on having sex with my toddler, they can't get it.
Unless you toddler is breastfeeding from my toddler, they can't get it.
Unless your toddler is sharing needles under the plastic slide with my toddler, they can't get it.
And let me take another wild guess that your child would not be giving birth to mine as that is the ONLY other way to get it, and happens to be the way that the majority of orphans abroad contracted the disease.
So back to Africa - yes - the rates are high. But they are also high in the Ukraine and Russia, worried about that little blond boy at the playground lately?? His mom has dark hair, he might be adopted? Who knows?
These orphans in other countries have a very good chance of dying from childhood illnesses they contract in the crowded orphanages. These children in the US have a much better chance of leading long and healthy lives. These children were orphans, and throughout scripture it says to defend the orphans, so how Christ-like are people who call themselves followers of Christ who are shunning these children like they have leprosy?? I'm pretty sure a guy I look up to ate with them as well...
So NO, not all black, adopted children from Africa have AIDS.
But if they did, so what? My children have played with children with HIV in America and in the African orphanages, and you know what, I don't know which ones had it and which ones didn't. And my kids could have cared less either. So, so what?
This awesome video explains the above in a much more friendly way - without the aggravated tone I was unable to hide:
There is no excuse for ignorance.
Get the FACTS:
take the time to browse Project Hopeful's website. They have been making tremendous strides in trying to educate the public and defend the orphan.